As a certified Parent Coach, I provide guidance, education and accountability as you grow your skills, unwind your conditioning prioritize your needs, and uncover your own best answers to your parenting struggles.

I don’t fix, prescribe, diagnose or judge your family. I co-create solutions with you. I offer coaching and education grounded in neuroscience, attachment theory, & childhood development, so that you can have more peace of mind and be better equipped for this wild journey.

I get it. I wondered that myself too. Around 2019 when my second child was born, I knew that I needed help understanding and coping with dynamics in our family. I tried a therapist. It wasn't really right. I read a lot of books. They helped. But then I found a parent coach and it felt like my prayers had been answered.

Here was a professional that was devoted to helping families function better! I think the thing to ask yourself is: is doing nothing, or more of the same working? What is the cost of living in chronic stress with my family? If things got just 10% easier, would that be worth the time/energy and money of trying this? How much do I value my relationship NOW with my kids and as they get older, how much do I want them to feel safe and connected to me?

Parenting inevitably brings up the past. But no, I'm not a skeleton hunter. I ask a lot of curiosity based questions that can help you clarify and arrive at your best parenting solutions.

Coaching is not therapy and has a unique approach which sometimes looks at the past for information about what is informing your behavior in the present. But our focus is always on the present and setting tangible goals for yourself while equipping you with lots of support and resources. I am a trauma informed coach which means that I assume everyone has trauma of some kind. At every intersection in our conversations you will always have a choice about how we proceed.

The worry is that if you are not on the same page as your partner in parenting, then there will be more behavioral trouble, inconsistency and conflicts. While I think it's ideal to be on the same page, for many families this just doesn't happen. Research by renowned neurosciences Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel support this approach-that the best predictor of social, emotional and mental health and wellbeing, meaningful relationships and academic success comes from a child having secure attachment with at least one person that showed up for them and really understood them.

It's better for YOU to just keep going, learning, growing and MODELING gentle parenting than not to try at all because you "want to be on the same page" as your coparent. Children and adults learn through modeling. I know it's hard and can feel lonely at times. I can help.

This is so common. The truth is that difficult behavior often isn't a discipline problem, its a relationship problem. Defiance and difficult behaviors dissipate when we begin with the basics of connection and strengthening your relationship with your child, better communication and decreasing your own overwhelm. What works in the long term is not punishment but empathy with kind firm limits. Discipline should not be an outlet for our anger. We have a lot of conditioning around "children behaving" and thoughtful parents have to work really hard to develop boundaries and skillfully set the kinds of limits that children need to thrive, that are not fueled by resentment or our own unprocessed experiences from childhood. The truth is everyone has their ideas about "how children should be raised." What really matters is that you feel good about your parenting and find a way that does not degrade your relationship with your child. 

My motto: One is better than none. Many powerful shifts can happen from one session or several. Even one session expands awareness and reframes behaviors so what once annoyed the x out of you, just doesn’t anymore. I know it feels like magic. And some big transformations happen over working together for several months because the accountability and relationship is there to support change and reconditioning. I believe coaching is an experience we have together and I am also changed from working with you.

The teaching videos are about 15-20 minutes. The workbook for each module can take anywhere from 10 min to half an hour depending on our in depth or reflective you like to get. Then our coaching call each week is 1 hour.

Nothing is wrong with you or your child. You feel stuck in your parenting because your actions are not aligned with your values. You are experiencing a skill gap. The gap between how you envision family life being and how it actually is going. It can be incredibly frustrating to spend most of your time in this gap. No one modeled for you how you want to show up with your children. So you are reenacting patterns of how you were parented.

You can acquire new skills and strategies AND release the baggage/beliefs that's keeping you stuck so you can bring in more joy through deep relationships with yourself and then your kids.

Really the examples are limitless. Some examples are:

Bedtime struggles, designing a daily rhythm, simplifying holidays & gifts, fostering independent play, transition and cooperation struggles, mealtime struggles, picky eating, toddler tantrums, chores & fostering helpfulness, “whining,” setting limits and boundaries, worries about child development, medical trauma, avoiding power struggles, sibling conflicts, new baby preparations for sibling(s), self regulation and self care, yelling, transitioning away from punishments and rewards.